An old friend of mine once explained to me this theory that he has on life and love and soulmates. It’s been such a long time since I saw him last, but I had the unexpected pleasure this past weekend. At some point in our lengthy and sprawling conversation, I asked him to explain it to me again….
You know the bell curve? Standard deviation? 68%? Start with that. I believe that if you put any two people together, most pairs would fall in the 68%… the majority. They’re people who can get along with each other and be happy together. They could make a life and be content. Beyond the first standard deviation, to the left of the graph are the people that just couldn’t be together. The second deviation being those who just couldn’t be happy as a pair… things between them would just never work out. And of course, the third deviation to the left is the tiny percentage of people who would simply loathe each other from start to finish.
But on the other side…, you have two deviations as well. The second part on the right side of the curve are those couples who might truly love each other… those who can live happily and be continually delighted in each other. These people are ones that have been especially lucky to have found each other. They could be soulmates. They could be each other’s “one.”
And the last bit – the tiny sliver at the end of the graph, that third deviation, the 99% – those pairs are divinely matched. Those are the people about whom stories are written and remembered. They are dynamic – flawless and completely enmeshed in each other. Their lives and minds become entwined. Their love is as one.
I’ve heard a million other explanations – one great love, one person for every person, opposites attract, the ability to be happy with anyone, and just plain falling in love – but none so eloquently imagined as this.